I always tip someone in the service industry, and always 20%, even when the service is SHIT. I was a waitress from 15 years old through my first year living in NYC after grad school.
Today that changed. Today was the first time in my life I didn’t tip at all.
I’ll make it quick.
I decided to get a pedicure for the first time in 2-3 years. My feet have always been fucked up from running and I’m extremely ticklish, which is a bad combo. Since I’m not training and running hard right now and I can’t reach my toes without losing my breath, I figured I would go for it.
My friends and I made a 12:30 appt. we sat in the chairs at 12:30 and I no one came over to me until 1:20, and when she did, the conversation was as follows:
Nail woman: How much time do you have left?
Me: 2 months
Nail woman: (gives me an astonished look) wow! You look big!
I used to be a lot stronger emotionally. If anyone said anything that bothered me at all, I would tell them to fuck off. Now, I am full of hormones and everything makes me cry so standing up for myself is unfortunately infrequent.
She finished the pedicure (decent job). When it came time to pay, I decided to let her know what she said was not okay. Next conversation:
Me: I would love to tip you but I want to let you know it is very rude to comment on a pregnant woman’s weight.
Nail woman: it’s okay
Me: it’s not okay, you should change.
Then I left. I was upset. As you know, this is not the first time someone has said something very rude to me about my belly and the weight, and I doubt it will be the last.
Moral of the story: keep your fucking mouth shut. You would NEVER comment on the weight of someone else to their face. Carrying a baby does not give you the right to say whatever you want.